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03 January 2011 @ 12:17 pm
Customary 2011 post!

Now, I don't necessarily think setting New Year's Resolutions are a productive idea, but, in a bid to do just that (be productive), I must admit that I have already put one task in to action. I worry too much. Even when at a party of close and dear friends I worry that I might have said the wrong thing or that people are meaning things that they are not actually saying. This is ludicruos and changes a pleasant time into a battlefield in my own head. I have suceeded with the New Year's Party of ending up, without effort or forward planning, going in between lots of different rooms and friends generally having fun and laughing and smiling with them and generally, seemingly, being kinder rather than worried. I'll definately keep that up. This goes for keeping in contact, also. Yes, it costs money to keep up apperances (especially on my pay as you go awful phone and dongle access to internet) but it's far beyond worth it.

Now to give myself more confidence and progression in the music department. It's a hard thing to force as it is creative, but I should never go a week without singing properly. That is out of the question. This should be aided by going to singing lessons, but they've just increased in cost and I have a wedding to save up for. But once I have an idea I should record and share it. I've got lots of new lyrics to play around with but just need the music to put them in. I've also got my eyes on working with a few random friends from all different walks of life to get me going. Hopefully this won't detract from my own music, but will push me to keep active. Let's do this.

I hope also that I have been supportive and nuturing enough to my Hal during these tough and endless work times. Talanas have finished album writing straight in to album recording. Vocals half completed and drums begin tonight. This is his real job and there's tons of buzz about them now so they must strike fast and hard. It all seems to be working. I can see them getting their front pages and middle page spreads already. And deservedly so.

How crazy is it that Hal and I will have to booktime off to GET MARRIED asap?! Wicked. I need some help, actually - how much time do you suggest is appropriate for taking off before/after a wedding day?
Davefishdavefish on January 3rd, 2011 01:23 pm (UTC)
I need some help, actually - how much time do you suggest is appropriate for taking off before/after a wedding day?

I don't know how elaborate your wedding is going to be, or indeed how much planning in advance you are doing, but I can answer this from what we found:

We took 3 days off, which was supposed to be a fairly relaxed build-up, we wanted to minimise the rushing around before. I had some family coming from Scotland and Ireland who were to be arriving early, and I wanted to have some time to help herd them around. We also wanted some time to destress after finishing work.

For reference, we had quite a few people to the wedding, but it was very informal.
quartiequartie on January 4th, 2011 01:05 pm (UTC)
This is very helpful, thankyou! Yep, looks like we've managed to get the invite list to 280 which is absolutely massive but is still leaving out lots of people who we'd like!
Davefishdavefish on January 4th, 2011 08:23 pm (UTC)
I know how you feel, we had one much around half that size. We thought (only briefly) about quite how big it would be if we invited everyone, and decided that might be a bit too many!

I'm sure that no matter what happens as far as arrangements go, you'll have an amazing day!
Bunevilbun on January 3rd, 2011 06:23 pm (UTC)
I think that it depends on honeymoon plans... but definitely take a good chunk of time off before you get wed. Again, depens how much of it you're doing yourself- I needed a lot of time because we did a lot of the wedding stuff ourselves!
quartiequartie on January 4th, 2011 01:35 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I think this is going to be all us planned and catching up with anyone we gave jobs to. Thanks, hun!
fracture242 on January 3rd, 2011 09:25 pm (UTC)
I really hope that this year will be amazing for you both hun, and I'm sure that your wedding will be perfect no matter what you decide to do because you were made fo each other and that love will shine through anything and everything that happens.
quartiequartie on January 4th, 2011 01:45 pm (UTC)
That is a flawlessly beautiful comment, hun. How wonderful! I'm just reading your 2010 closing post now and it looks like your festivities were full of love and light!